Why you must be Wild for Self Care

We all have different versions of what self-care means to us. When we ignore it for long enough, we can get health problems. I see men, and women particularly who move through the weeks and months with the odd headache, neck and back tightness, feeling tired, depleted and overwhelmed from yo-yo busyness of an overactive world. 

The more dangerous side effects like heart disease and depression can come as a result of an ongoing inability to take some time-out.

Before you know it, months go by and suddenly you realise that such a small portion of that time has been spent on loving and caring for yourself, and that’s if you are really conscious and self-aware.  Because then you are more likely to take action to avoid it in future.

Because there is no prescription for self-care it’s up to us as individuals to decide what we should be doing to nurture ourselves and re-charge. Whatever, it’s absolutely necessary for optimum mind and body health but we are simply not doing enough of it.

A common viewpoint is that practising self-care is indulgent. Really?

Strategies for preserving mind and body don’t have to be complex or involve finding hours of time in a week. Think about what can fit in with your lifestyle.

Still confused?

Source help in making a self-care plan and have someone hold you accountable to practising your chosen rituals.

Be consistent, put as much emphasis and importance on practising self-care as you would to your job, your kids, your partner. Stop cancelling or postponing appointments that allow you to indulge in some therapeutic relaxation.

Having an outlet to get out of your mind and to just ‘be’, recharges your batteries and gives you space to breathe, consider life, discover solutions, get clarity, find serenity.

Stop feeling guilty for taking a break from your life. It’s selfish not to adopt regular self-care, and that's not just for yourself.  

Think of it from this perspective, if it makes you feel better and gives you greater context…

You owe it to your loved ones, those that you care for, or those that rely on you to keep them safe and healthy.  You have to be well or how can you do what’s expected of you to your best?  

Stop being selfish. Make it a priority.

So, take some time out this week, create some calm in your life, take an hour for some therapy, meditate, laugh, sing, shop, exercise.  

If necessary, get some help to make it happen.

How to recover from a week of 'overload'

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Last week consisted of a few impromptu meetings, invites to events and catching up with friends between treating clients. It was also the week where I proudly launched my 90 Day Reflex Therapy and Transformation Program, and publicising this took a back seat so, excited as I was about it, I have now got some work to do in sharing this with you in the coming days. 

If you want to know more about how this can support you right away, drop me a line, below.

I really like to accept as many social invitations as possible but like buses, they always seem to come along together!  Connecting over a glass or two of wine and a great meal, to share thoughts and laughter is so good for the soul. 

However, on Sunday, I felt tired, jaded and a little emotional, and I was reminded how important self care is to a positive mindset and being able to function optimally.

I realised a long time ago, that in order to get my mind and body back into balance and harmony, the secret sauce is in planning regular and ongoing wellness rituals, so that when life throws me a curve ball, it doesn't take weeks to get back on track or worse still, send my health backwards!

Here are three, regular things I strongly believe in and I do for my own well being (and sanity) and I thought you may find some of them useful too.

1. Diarise and action a regular Reflexology treatment: There are so many instances in life when our health can be compromised... physically, mentally and emotionally.  We can't tell in advance what things will occur to overwhelm us and we may have weeks where everything goes smoothly. 

Prevention, however, is far better than cure and when I receive a treatment for myself, I'm always surprised just how much I needed it, even when I think I don't.

2. Diarise 1 hour a week for 'me-time': Or better still; 1 hour a day. I used to think that this was selfish and indulgent, that I didn't have time to just drop everything and sort myself out.  It was a challenge at first because of the demands of family and work, or household tasks. However, 'you cannot serve others from a depleted cup' and if you are going to be your best mentally, physically and emotionally and be well enough to show up for others, YOU have to come first.

Force yourself to stop and listen to your body. Ideally pick a solo pursuit so you get the opportunity to connect with your inner self, with no distractions. Meditate, read a book, go to bed early, go for a walk, listen to your favourite playlist, bake a cake, draw and doodle, bathe in a hot bath with essential oils, journal, learn a new skill... just a few ideas.

3. Plan weekly meals: In my view, this is the only way you can make sure that you get the right nutrition and you are not caught short when you are running late or have nothing left in the fridge at the end of the week but are starving hungry.  Create a meal diary, keeping the menu simple yet tasty, shop, pre-prep as many ingredients as you can (go organic as much as you can), share the effort.

There's no surprises and less excuses.  A great solution if you are time poor and lacking inspiration, is to subscribe to Hello Fresh or Marley Spoon, who will both deliver your ingredients and a recipe card every week.

Do you have any other tips you can share?  I'd love to hear them.